Urgent Helicopters

For those who don't see my Facebook post... a friend posted a link to this article and I feel compelled to share.

http://www.time.com/time/nation/article/0,8599,1940395-1,00.html

I thought it was a great article on trends in parenting and it seemed to back-up a lot of the discussions Adam and I had BEFORE we had kids and discussions we''ve been having SINCE... and it reiterated that we need to slow down, let kids do things in their own time, not be pushy about extracurriculars and structured play... etc.

(So, honey, NOW I will say THANK YOU for packing up a bunch of Julia's toys and putting them away and now I'm ready to do more of it...!)

This article ties in well with another lesson I had in parenting this morning... well, one I have MOST mornings but today I was laughing all over myself about it.  If you are a believer in God my guess is that you have prayed for patience, and if there is one thing you know about patience (if you don't already) is that God doesn't GIVE patience, he PROVIDES OPPORTUNITIES for you to practice it.  So, every time I find myself praying for patience, I know that a lesson is coming around the corner.

Why was I laughing all over myself today?  As I was trying to shuffle Julia out the door so she could go to daycare and I was trying to urge her on quickly (because, you know, that few minutes is such a big deal in the scheme of things... ha!), it dawned on me that DUH, Julia doesn't hurry because she simply doesn't KNOW to hurry... children have no urgency at all.  No matter what I say to or try with her, she will not go any faster.  In fact, I was laughing extra hard because the exact second I would say, "Come on, let's go a little faster!", she would look up at me with those big blues, give a little devilish grin, and SHUFFLE.  She actually started to shuffle her feet.  Yah, that broke me and I was laughing like hyena. 

*I* need to learn to slow down and not be so pushy with her... because urgency is not a built in trait... it is something we learn.  And, while having a bit of urgency is not a bad thing (being on-time is generally a good thing, etc.), being overly urgent and being frustrated with your child's lack of urgency is not.  I really don't want my daughter to turn three and be pushing ME out the door... and therefore I really need to take a step back, breathe, slow down, and let her explore.

I stopped a dad at daycare to share my thoughts with him; ironically now I realize that he was actually in quite a hurry, and we had a good laugh.  It dawned on me that I've experienced a slower pace before, and not because I wanted to... back in 2002 I flew on a flight test for work and we stayed overnight in Pago Pago, American Samoa.  We were getting ready to leave the next day and decided to grab some lunch, and we decided we needed some quick lunch so that we wouldn't be late... we stopped in at a restaurant that advertised "carry-out" and "fast service"... I ordered a mocha and a sandwich... the other guys ordered as well... and 30 minutes later -- YES, 30 -- we had our food.  My mocha?  It had come from a packet.  The sandwich?  Something as easy as PB&J.  The amount of time?  Believe it or not, a sense of urgency is not common to EVERY culture on the planet and we had a good lesson in it that day... I doubt very much the lesson sunk in, as I know we were frustrated and amused by the "lack of service"... but simply, we were subject to a culture that did things in their own time.

All right... this blog post is going where I knew it was going to go... I knew I didn't have a real definite thought about how to end it... so I'm teetering on a tangent...

... at any rate, read and enjoy the article, give good thought to how to relax the need to be urgent in your life, just a tad... how well does that fit knowing that we are headed into the Holiday Season?  Stop to smell the roses a bit more (or, in the case of the season, the great smells of fall and winter), take time to enjoy your coffee instead of just using it as fuel to keep you awake, and... take time to enjoy your kids and take a lesson from them as you watch them discover, play, and learn.  I know I will!  :)

erin

Finishing Touches

Back in August I started this super secret quilting project and after working on it for the better part of a day and experiencing some real highs from it, I was dealt a blow and sulkily packed it away, hoping I would feel inspired to work on it again someday.  Fast forward two months and it was October and our quilt retreat was looming and I decided that not only was I going to dig it back out and work on it again, I was going to FINISH it.

Well, I finished it minus about 20 minutes worth of work that I did tonight... I'm so excited to say that it is done!  I completed it over 3 days and 20 minutes tonight.  And it's still super secret so this is only a special sneak preview and the rest will be revealed in a few weeks.  But, I had to blog tonight because dang, it sure feels good to have another project finished.  I just wanted to shout, YAY! 

erin

Chunkalunk

Raven had her 2 mo appointment today... still hard to believe she is already 2 months old!

She is our little chub... though, she really doesn't look chubby, but she answers the question when people ask, "Is she big?"  The answer is yes!

Today Raven weighed 12 lbs 10 oz and is 24 inches long already!  She is 90% for her weight and 97% for her height.  She has a small head (40%) at 15 inches.

(Looking back at Julia's 2 mo... Julia was 11 lbs 3 oz and 23.5 inches long.  Love those breastfed babies!  They scoot right up the chart in a quick hurry and then start settling out around 6 mo.)

erin

Scarf

Okay... confession.  This is the first scarf I've ever finished.  I've started quite a few, but none were ever so quick and easy as this one.

Some time ago there was a yarn shop in Marion, IA, and it was going out of business.  Friend Chrissy and I did our part to buy up some of the stock that was greatly discounted.  This is a scarf from one of two balls of a delicious orange-y red (or reddish orange) yarn that from Granada.  I would need a translator to tell you what it's made of though I have a good idea.  It is amazingly soft and feels great against the skin. 

Christmas present?  Probably so.  :)

Off to work on another two Christmas gifts (quilted) and then off to bed... it's been a fun night!  :)

erin

Big Sister

I love her eyes in this picture... we were messing around this morning while Raven did tummy time and daddy was still asleep. 

Two Months

It is hard to believe, but yesterday Raven was two months old. 

We have her two month well baby check-up on Tuesday.  At that point we'll find out how big she is and where she falls in the percentages.  I'm excited about it and looking forward to seeing how she compares to Julia at that age.  (I admit it is hard not to compare them, and hopefully I will be wise not to compare them when it really matters down the road...)

I posted that she has started smiling.  She is quite a smiley little thing and enjoys attention.  She is not a fan of tummy time, but only because that typically results in Julia attempting to sit on her.  ("If I can Hop on Pop, then why not Hop on Raven?")  She is still eating and sleeping really well... I wouldn't say that her schedule has changed dramatically since she was born with the exception that she is awake a lot more during the day.

Raven enjoys sleeping in her swing and sleeping in her bassinet, but sometimes at four in the morning, she is happiest cuddled in mommy's arms.  Those are the sweet hours of my day; snoozing in bed holding my infant while the rest of the house is quiet (minus the usual groans of a very old house).

She taken to crying a bit when she's really tired and you haven't figured that out yet.  Normally this happens when she's only been awake for an hour or two and you figure since she was awake in her last stretch for three (or four or five) hours, she couldn't possibly be tired already again, but sure enough, and swaddling calms her down and she goes right back to sleep.

Big sister Julia still loves her little sister and wants to play with her and such and is working at being patient, though she doesn't know what patience is yet.  That requires mommy and daddy to work at being patient as well, because we don't want to find ourselves disciplining Julia for simply loving and caring a little too much.

I'll be back Tuesday to report Raven's stats.  For now, I hope you enjoy the pictures!

erin

Jumping Monkeys

I Heart Pandora

Thanks to my friend Racheal for opening my eyes to the wonderful world of Pandora Internet Radio.  I luuuuuuuuuuuurve it! 

Pandora Internet Radio

Sunday Morning

Last Sunday with the time change, we found ourselves up and about very early in the morning and decided that we would give early church a go and so we did.  Yesterday, though, I knew we would attend our "regular" service as Adam had a gig Saturday night.  However, we were all still up fairly early and "ready to go" and so we spent our time-before-church hanging out in the living room. 

Adam read Julia and Raven a book or two while I was taking care of some things.  And, Julia must be reading "Hop On Pop!" when we put her to bed at night, because she thinks sitting on top of Adam is a riot.  (Note: We do not actually own "Hop On Pop!") 

It was a peaceful and lovely little family morning yesterday and I sighed and thought, "Hmm, I do so love my family." 

erin

Success!

It's amazing how much more quickly one can knit when using the correct size needles with the correct weight of yarn.  Here is Raven in her new and much more comfortable hat... this one only took about three or four hours to make.  Go, me!  :)